Family Law Options What to do, when it seems like you have no options

Your Legal Options
Your choices are difficult, and your options are not limited to the basic options shown here. You might need the intervention or prompt assistance of social agencies, police, counselors or others; you might need nothing but a chance to sit down and speak with your spouse. No matter how many options you might have, and no matter how complex and urgent your challenges might be, there are some basic options available to you for bringing a family dispute to a conclusion, and you should consider the general approaches described here.

Comparison of Methods of Resolving a Family Law Dispute

Litigation Negotiation Mediation Collaboration
Description Court proceedings, including documentation to commence action, disclosure of documents, pre-trial proceedings, trial, and any necessary appeals, followed by judgment and enforcement Various communications, either directly between parties (although usually through lawyers), in which each party attempts to achieve a result that is best for that party Attempts to come to a mutually acceptable agreement, with the assistance of a trained professional who facilitates communication between the parties Commitment by both parties in a family law dispute (and their lawyers), to work toward a settlement, including commitments for full disclosure of all information and a commitment to stay out of court if at all possible
Focus and Reliance Reliance on court to achieve a result favoring one of the parties over the other Reliance on superior strength of an individual party and/or that party's lawyer or negotiating team Reliance on a trained professional mediator, to guide the parties to a result that is mutually acceptable to both parties Reliance on giving each party the power (with the assistance of a lawyer and other professionals) to cooperate with his or her spouse, in working toward an outcome that is acceptable to both spouses
Advantages Generally achieves success for one of the parties If the parties benefit from equal bargaining power, then the results can reflect a balance between the interests of the parties Encourages communication; minimizes the chances of having to go to court Encourages communication between the parties; reduces tension; encourages creative solutions; more likely to produce a result that can guide the parties in ongoing dealings with one another and their children; usually quicker and less expensive than other methods
Disadvantages Generally achieves failure for one of the parties; expensive; risky; often fails to produce an outcome that encourages continued relationship among family members May increase hostility between the parties; competing interests might not be reconcilable Time and expense could be wasted, if mediation is not successful Time and expense could be wasted, if collaboration is not successful
Disclosure Disclosure is required by, and may be limited to, the specifications provided by the Rules of Court Disclosure is limited to what the parties choose to disclose to one another Disclosure is limited to what the parties choose to disclose to one another, under the guidance and recommendations of the mediator Full disclosure of all relevant information is expected and required, in accordance with the participation agreement signed by the parties and their lawyers
Suitability If hostility, abuse, unequal bargaining power, or other factors prevent reasonable communication between the parties, then this might be the only viable alternative Suitable when both parties have strong communication skills, and are able to balance their interests to produce a result that is acceptable to both parties Suitable for parties who are able to communicate, and who are prepared to rely on a mediator to guide them in their communication Parties who are open to communication and full disclosure, and are prepared to work together to resolve their differences

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